This parenting thing isn't for the weak that is for sure!! I receive an e-mail from Alex's teacher yesterday saying that Alex had an issue on the playground. The kids formed a line and were taking turns with a soccer ball and when became Alex's turn, a kid...let's call him Bob slapped the ball from his hands. What did Alex do?? He punched him in the arm with his fist! I have never seen him react like that so I was stunned....and angry. I drive down to the school and his teacher was in a meeting. The kids were finishing up their art projects (it was the end of the school day) and the minute Alex saw me, he sunk so low in his chair. He came out into the hallway and here is the conversation
Alex - (sobbing uncontrollably) Mom, I got in trouble
Mom - Alex, you need to calm down and tell mom what happened
Alex - (still sobbing) Bob took the ball from me and I punched him and I had to come in from recess
Mom - Alex, how should we have handled the situation when Bob took the ball
Alex - I don't know....I'm a bully (still sobbing)
Mom - You're not a bully. Why did you punch him
Alex - I was frustrated
Mom - Okay, bully's hit kids for attention, you did it because you were frustrated. Lets figure out how we should deal with this the next time Bob slaps the ball from your hands.
Alex - Can I go home...I'm just going to get in trouble again (like he can't stop punching kids today?)
Anyway, he finally calmed down and went back to class. I talked to his teacher and she said it wasn't a HUGE deal so then I wondered if I overreacted which is something I have a tendency to do with him. Alex appoligized to Bob for punching him and I decided not to punish him any further. I wish there was a manual to help with these situations.
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Dawson got into trouble at school the past 2 days. Once for another child tackling him. Who knows if he tackled back. Yesterday it was for playing a game that involved throwing snowballs. Although he said he wasn't throwing snowballs. I have an email to the teacher asking her thoughts. It seems like it's really "no big deal" ALOT at school.
Sorry Alex you got frustrated. Hopefully you have a good day today!
Sorry Amanda! It's hard to deal with your child not being good at school. I know I have a tough time sometimes...
Sounds to me as if you're writing that manual. I'll have to buy myself a copy.
I hope everything is better for your little man now.
Sounds like you handled it just fine. At least you cared about the situation and didn't brush it off like no big deal, like some parents do.
Hey girl.....I missed seeing you the other night!!!!! Wish you could have made it!!!!! Hopefully it'll work out some other time!!!!
I agree with Amy....at least you cared! A lot of parents here just blow it off and the situation gets worse and worse. It sounds like you are a very caring parent and are doing just fine!
I missed seeing you at the game too...hopefully sometime we can meet!
I think you are doing a wonderful job parenting Alex.
Poor guy...sounds like he was so upset about it.
Hang in there.
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